So I'm really having trouble with what exactly is the definition of critical listening, this what OP asked in original post.
Some state that listening to the sound of one's system is critical listening, this inferior to a mode where one transcends the sound of their system and/or eliminates consciousness of it's sound quality or qualities.
So, my question is why is this a superior mode of listening, what makes it inherently superior? And why is consciousness of sound quality or qualities necessarily a critical mode of listening? And then we have the music and the performance of that music, is there not some level of critical listening in that? We all have favorite artists, genres of music , favored performances of that music. So somehow we magically escape critical listening when we just listen to the music, some magical spell transports us to this world of no judgment, comparison, consciousness.
My take is whenever we are listening INTENTLY to music reproduced over high end systems we are inherently in critical listening mode, this applicable to the music, performance of that music and the sound quality or qualities of our systems. I assume we all got into high end audio in order to more realistically present music in our home environment, we wish to feel a closer connection to the artists and their performance of music, this requires critical attention being paid. Casual listening on the other hand is not critical listening, our attention is diverted to other things. Critical listening is listening with full attention, is not necessarily judgmental or doesn't have to be judgemental. Critical listening is listening with heightened senses, this is not a bad thing.