Kirkus
I composed the above offline before you posted again, it is in response to your post from last night (my time).
Since the issue of efective mass is causing confusion, I can take it out of the argument by reverting to rotational units. If we assume the arm is 225mm long then we have an angular deviation of 4.4 mrad per mm of warp so a 5mm warp will be 22mrad. At the frequency given this is a maximal acceleration of 1.1 rad.s^-2. If the moment of inertia of the arm and cartridge combination is 1.26 x 10^-3 kg.m^2 the maximal torque transmitted to the arm is 1.38 x mNm which is equivalent to a force of 6.2 mN acting at a distance of 225mm. This is exactly equivalent to the previous calculation.
Mark Kelly
BTW I meant to write "the phase and amplitude of the response becomes important" in the post above.