How can anyone afford this ?


I consider myself a dedicated audiophile. I am 36(which I am guessing is a little younger than the average here) and single. I have been interested in high-end audio since I saw my uncle's Mcintosh and Threshold equipment for the first time when I was 5.
Since joining the workforce and saving a little I have always been trying to put together a nice system on a budget. I do OK financially(I am a systems engineer) but I do live in NYC which may put some of this into perspective.
Over the last 6 months I have struggled to buy(all used on Agon) a pair of Dynaudio Audience 42s and a Threshold CAS2 amp, Chang CLS3200, and cables(I haven't gone out[I don't have a girfriend], purchased anything else and really haven't eaten too much to be able to afford these and it is still a real stretch). I am using the amp with a direct connection from my CD/DVD player(Cambridge Audo Azur 540D...slightly modified[op amps, PS caps, bypass caps] that I have had for almost 10 years). A fellow has a Threshold FET2 series II(to match with the CAS2) he is holding for me but that seems like a pipe dream at this point along with a turntable.
A few years ago the analogue bug hit me.
I had a setup consisting of an Audio Analogue Settanta integrated and a Nottingham Horizon SE turntable with a Rega RB300 tonearm with the Incognto rewire and structural mod. This was not an expensive kit by any stretch but for me it almost put me in the poor house. I had to sell the entire rig to pay my bills and it hurt.
It seems over the last 10 years or so I have not been able to keep a kit for more than 6 months before I had to sell it. Whenever I don't have a rig I am constantly scanning the online Ads lusting for the next bargain to set up a system and cannot even listen to music on a mass market rig(I have been spoiled).
Anyway, I guess my question is how can anyone normal afford this hobby? What type of money do you have to be making to be able to enjoy this hobby.....$100,000/year? $500,000/year? Do you need to be worth millions? $5,000 barely gets you in the door(some interconnects cost more) and you could possibly spend millions. I am not looking to put together a $10,000 system(not even close...and that is modest in this hobby) but if I wanted to I don't see it ever being financially possible. If I had a girlfriend or a family(hopefully someday) I would not event be able to think about this hobby with a good conscience. I guess I am wondering if all these people in this hobby are millionaires? I am close to selling my rig again to pay the bills(the amp needed repair/recap and that was $450). Any advice for an audiophile who lusts to put together a nice rig but can't afford it? Should I get out and save for 5 or 10 years and then try again? Maybe I am in the wrong hobby but it is more addicting that crack to me(and more expensive). Maybe I should be a crackhead instead...that might be the only thing to make me forget about it. Thoughts?
adamd1205
Raquel, there is some nonsense in your post. You can get excellent Santoni shoes at their store for $450 plus tax, the same with Ferragamo. These are excellent brands. John Lobb will set you back for at least $1000,true.$2k rent will get you more than what you said. And even $5 sandwich can be great if you know where to buy.
On the other hand, $1 million usually does not buy what you said.
How much do you really know about NYC? Don't misinform people here.
I was talking about Manhattan below 96th Street - what borough are you talking about? Paul Stewart is not that great of a store - here's the shoe page from their site:

http://www.paulstuart.com/category_template_viewall.cfm?MainCatId=14&ProdCatId=1008&subProdCatId=0&headermenuid=1

I was afraid to look to see whether they still carry Edward Green.
Yeah, Paul Stewart is not great at all. Edward Green would be about $1000, I guess. Anyway, I usually buy for at least half those prices on ebay.
I too was talking about Manhattan below 96th. In Brooklyn, in a good area, you can rent three bedroom for $1800.
But that's enough of this, let's continue about stereo.
I agree with the comment of buying some quality used equipment on Agon or similar sites (there are a couple more). As a systems engineer, you are probably somewhat mechanically oriented so a little tweaking and repairs can bag you some fine equipment that others may have given up on. I have a treasure in a maplenoll apollo that IMHO, will stack up for quality with most any out there. I had the great luck of finding one that Lloyd walker personally tweaked and sold. The best part, i got the entire setup including a pretty good cartridge for less than 3500. I had a UNIverse cartridge i quickly put on this beast so the sound competes with anything out there. I also own a vintage pair of Klipschorns that I picked up 8 years ago for less than 1800 and had a set of interconnects that by themselves is worth 1000 retail. I had to go to North Carolina to pick up but it gave me an excuse for a road trip. I have several other steals that i got just watching and waiting. You can spend mega-bucks but you dont have to. Lots of people who are tired of a particular system or component will part with them at cents on the dollar.
No doubt that good sounding gear can be had for a low amount of money but pushing performance and refinement is going to cost money and the curve gets harder to climb the further you go. Enjoy what you can afford and work hard to make what you spend really count (which it appears you have been doing).

I have always made my more expensive purchases from a portion of work bonuses so it was my personal reward. I guess I am at a good place with audio now because the last good sized influx of cash I decided that I didn't really want anything so I just bought quite a few LPs.