Best speaker a wife would tolerate

Sonus Faber Amati Homage, Bohlender-Graebener in-wall ribbons, Gradient Revolutions (can go up against wall and still sound great because of unique directional bass loading). Or better yet, get her involved in the selection process - honoring her preferences is good for the marriage, and could be a lot of fun. If she's really into this feng shui energy stuff, she might be open to the idea that beautiful music can completely change the energy in a room, in a home, and in the people who live there.

My wife listened to B&W 805s, Linn Ninkas, and Linn AV5140s. We ended up with the 5140s -- without the grills -- even though they were the largest pair she listened to. Reasons: Paul Simon & The Matrix both sound wonderful on them; although they're big, they're pretty attractive (cherry finish)... She actually encouraged buying them, said she was trying to break my Protestant-guilt upbringing...

I saw a post by Cornfedboy where he talked of the new Avalon speaker called the Symbol. Very nice looking speaker.
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You have gotten good suggestions, I would also try: Gallo [ http://www.roundsound.com ] , the very beautiful JMlab Utopia series, (the best-looking box speaker) especially check out the micro utopia [ http://www.focal.tm.fr/gb/home/utopia/index.htm ]. Martin Logan [ http://www.martinlogan.com ] a long shot but you never know what will be aesthetically appealing.

Try the Piega's - HelloHiFi stocks some of the line.