Pulling the trigger on pricey equipment

I've been fortunate on both the buy and sell side of many deals. Check my feedback.

For example, I just sold my ARC VS-115 amp for a fair piece of coin to a new member (no feedback) who lives on the west coast. I had a good feeling about the guy, especially after a live conversation or two. I even took his personal check and shipped before it cleared. Thank goodness .. no issues on either side of the deal. Check cleared and amp made it to the west coast in A-1 shape.

I also sold speakers (100 pounds each) that had to be palletized. Again, no problems on either side of the deal. Money cleared and speakers made it without a scratch.

I suppose member reviews are helpful, a live conversation is helpful and a little bit of luck is VERY helpful.

I would agree with Bifwynne - exchange telephone #s & call the seller. Have an extended chat with him. It will give you a feel for the person.
Like Bifwynne, I've been very lucky in my sales & purchases on A'gon but each time I called the person & chatted with them. That always gave me either a good feeling (yes, I want to buy from/sell to this person) or a bad feeling (no, this sale is not happening with this person).
Your angst is very understanding & many of us empathize. All the best....

If I was buying gear which was more than a few hundred dollars, especially if several (or more) thousands, I'd drive/fly to the seller's and meet in person to see/touch/hear the gear first. Less risk once the seller knows you not only know where they live, but are also willing to pay them a personal visit, if necessary.

Be patient and wait for the item to be available within driving distance. I drove halfway to Maryland from Jersey for my speakers.

What about using Facetime. That way you get the meet the seller... and actually see the equipment you're buying.