did my wife harm my speakers?

She is still not talking to me after i yelled at her.

So Can High volume "blow" or damage a speaker?
Is there anything like a fuse in them to protect them?
what would happen to my Revels if they got to much power?

Run a test disc and check your frequency levels - easy way to tell if all drivers are ok.

How old is the Proceed PRE? I had one from 1997 and it always changed my TV volume and PRE volume. Madrigal has an upgraded chip to fix this. I contacted them and they sent the chip to me and I installed it myself. Contact them. This is a known problem with the Proceed PRE.

Usually our amps when overdriven or malfunctioning fry our tweeters/crossovers and it is usually all to obvious when this has happened, so relax if it is not obviously damaged. Most equipment is probably designed to survive these minor disasters. Unfortunately this all sounds like poor planning IF you knew of the negative tv remote/preamp interaction in advance. What can go wrong will go wrong. That makes it ALL your fault my friend... do apologize to your wife immediately and sincerely IF this was the case.

Apologize for yelling at her! Then take the speakers in for 'repair' (just have them 'checked out', I'm sure they're fine if they sound fine). Then tell her that you need to buy a new _____ preamp to make sure this doesn't happen again. She'll feel so bad for 'damaging' the speakers, she won't complain. Never pass up a golden opportunity to upgrade. BTW, try a tubed preamp, maybe a AR, BAT, Cary or other. Turn a muff into a gain.