IMHO your problems stem from the fact that B&W speakers are not time-coherent (this is a huge discussion & there are Audiogon members who are dedicated to both sides of the fence. Search the archives here if you want to learn more) & it's a well-known fact that non time-coherent speakers create a lot of distortion that leads to many ill-effects, one of them being listening fatigue. No surprise here. You were lucky, I think, that you didn't experience this before. I used to own a DM604S2 long time back but my room is bigger. The N804s ar not much bigger than the DM604S2.
Yeah, the N804s might be too big for your room but before you run out & buy another different pair maybe you can experiment a little to see if you can alleviate your pain.
* Have you played with toe-in? Try zero toe-in where the speakers are pointing straight. Try toe-in such that the speakers fire at your directly i.e. remove reflected sound as much as you can.
* I see that you have treated the room which is very good. Maybe some more treatment is need? Maybe some on the ceiling to attenuate the reflected sound? Make sure that you have "spot panels" at the 1st reflection off the side walls.
* Make sure that you are sitting with your ears just below the tweeter & above the midrange. Atleast this was the best position for me when I had my DM604S2. You might want to start at this point & move up/down to see which is best for you. You might have to up/down your chair OR raise the speaker. I'm saying this because it very much looks to me that you are receiving a lot of high freq info & very little bass freq. So, the music is 'tipped up' which is worsening your listening fatigue. Changing your height will allow the drivers to integrate at your ear so your hear the whole audio spectrum.
* related to the above is to change your distance from the speaker. Maybe you are too close such that the drivers are not integrating at your ear so you are not hearing a cohesive sound - you might be hearing the tweeter & mid (as they do arrive before the bass) & very little/zero from the bass driver.
FWIW.
Yeah, the N804s might be too big for your room but before you run out & buy another different pair maybe you can experiment a little to see if you can alleviate your pain.
* Have you played with toe-in? Try zero toe-in where the speakers are pointing straight. Try toe-in such that the speakers fire at your directly i.e. remove reflected sound as much as you can.
* I see that you have treated the room which is very good. Maybe some more treatment is need? Maybe some on the ceiling to attenuate the reflected sound? Make sure that you have "spot panels" at the 1st reflection off the side walls.
* Make sure that you are sitting with your ears just below the tweeter & above the midrange. Atleast this was the best position for me when I had my DM604S2. You might want to start at this point & move up/down to see which is best for you. You might have to up/down your chair OR raise the speaker. I'm saying this because it very much looks to me that you are receiving a lot of high freq info & very little bass freq. So, the music is 'tipped up' which is worsening your listening fatigue. Changing your height will allow the drivers to integrate at your ear so your hear the whole audio spectrum.
* related to the above is to change your distance from the speaker. Maybe you are too close such that the drivers are not integrating at your ear so you are not hearing a cohesive sound - you might be hearing the tweeter & mid (as they do arrive before the bass) & very little/zero from the bass driver.
FWIW.