How to explain our obsessions to the uninitiated?


My father in-law asked me last night at dinner, just what makes one box more special than the other (referring to the components within a system) so much so that one can command a higher price and succeed in a competitive marketplace? I tried explaining as best I could and don't know if I did a very effective job at it. I was wondering if anyone has come across an online resource, or even a thread here that may do a good job at putting into words that someone who knows nothing about this hobby can relate with, exactly what it is that makes one component better than another and worth the price of admission? Since he expressed some interest I was thinking of pointing my father in-law to something like that if it exists. I will also take the time to try to sit him down and listen, of course, but I'd also like to find a well-articulated (hopefully brief and to the point) description of the carrot on the stick. Perhaps I'll just compose something myself. It is not the first time someone has asked me. There's always the response; "...if you have to ask, you probably won't get it anyway." I'd rather be more positive and try, at least, to share my enthusiasm, even if the likelihood may be towards the inference of that more rude response. What have your experiences been in sharing your hobby with those who otherwise wouldn't care about such things?
jax2
All good responses above,Shardone phrased it more to the way I feel about the hobby myself.When I duscuss audio with people than are not into the hobby,I usually tell them that the "boxes" are made with better electronics and better chassis,also they are not mass produced ,that in itself is an explanation because after all it's true.My mother in law hates me for spending money on audio.I ignore her.
Joylawn36111,you know you are a "kinky"audiophile!Just kidding,I love gear too,especially heavy thick faceplates and overbuild "tank" components,not so much into the lights though.Enjoy.
George
At this very moment I am listening to the CD of the Kinston Trio I checked out today from my local library, and playing it on a $100,000 system, the evolution of a lifelong obsession. I first listened to them when I was about 13 years old in 1957, and was interested in the music and the sound, and went on to explore ever better equipment and music, in the days of the the birth of high end audio. Since then, it has only gotten better. Nonetheless, the I can still appreciate the music, and it gives me a thrill to hear how good it sounds. When the reproduction of interesting music is great, there is that much more to appreciate! As your system gets better, you can go back and replay all your old music, and find there is even more to enjoy, that you never really knew was there. It's not just better boxes (although that helps) it's also understanding how to tweak what you've got! But for me, it's still the music.
Marco, I am sure you were kidding about the medication part, but yes, I do. Also part of it is the modding of the electronics. Fun to get the soldering iron going. Also, as far as brightness, yes some are, but the trick is not to stare straight on at them for too long. And I agree that my lights would not be appropriate for serious listening (too distracting).

By the way, for those who do modding, (like changing caps, etc.) I recommend a electric-powered solder sucker to remove the old part. This preserves your expensive components' motherboard.
Good music deserves the best playback equipment I can afford. It's the music.
An additional thought: Music I love can be enjoyed on a POS (ie: crappy car radio) but the enjoyment increases exponentially as the system gets better. Better "boxes" as well as attention to EVERYTHING else just makes it all the more so, and when it is REALLY good, it approaches great sex!