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About Lugnut -- Patrick Malone

Many of us have come to know Patrick Malone (Lugnut) as a friendly, helpful, knowledgeable and kind individual. He is a frequent and enthusiastic contributor to our analog discussion forum. He has initiated only 17 threads, but responded to 559 threads. I would guess that many, if not most, of us can recall a time when Pat replied with helpful advice to a question we posted or helped us track down a rare recording. I have come to love Pat as a friend, and to respect him as a man, and I suspect many of you share those feelings.

Today I write to share difficult news with you. Pat has been diagnosed with an aggressive stomach cancer. It has yet to be determined whether surgery will even be worth it. If surgery is performed, most or all of the stomach will be removed, and Pat would face a difficult and long post-op period in the hospital. The medical course is still uncertain, but will be determined soon. Whatever is decided, it will not be easy or pleasant.

Something may be planned in the future to assist the family. For now, Pat could use some of the friendship he so often and willingly showed us. You can email Pat at: lugnut50@msn.com. You can also mail cards, letters ... or whatever. You may email me for Pat's mailing address. My email is: pfrumkin1@comcast.net.

I hope to spend a few days with Pat in Idaho or Nebraska (from which he hails) soon. Between this news, my legal work, getting ready for family arriving for the holidays, Audio Intelligent, and trying to make plans to visit Pat, my head is spinning. If you email me and I don't respond, please understand that I am not ignoring you, but rather simply do not have time to reply.

Pat may or may not have time to respond to posts here, to emails, or to cards mailed to him. But he has asked me to convey to each and every one of you that he has cherished your friendship, your comradery, and sharing our common hobby on this great website.

As we prepare for our holiday season celebrations, and look forward to -- as we should -- enjoying this time of year, I ask that you keep Pat and his family in mind ... and softly offer up, in quiet moments in the still of night and early morning, prayers for Pat and his family. God bless.

Warmest regards to all,
Paul Frumkin
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gregm
3,409 posts
 
Pat you have been teaching me (all of us, no doubt) about life in an unprecedented way, without prompting, just by being Patrick aka Lugnut.

Just by being Patrick aka Lugnut (:)) I know you'll always be there for everyone...

My words are poor and I feel much too incapable to do something worthwhile and say something worthwhile... you noticed: my mind immediately jumped to an "exchange" and Pat, you don't belong to the "you give s/thing you take s/thing" world. You are in the "give s/thing" world.

If /when I manage to fully understand your legacy, I for one will have gained some of your strength & courage -- and by remembering these lessons, I will be capable in turn of passing some of this legacy to others who depend on me (I have two small children).

It is now 11:30 am, half-way around the world, and I am at my office trying to picture Barb and Pat.

I am thinking that there will be moments when either Josephine (our daughter) or Christian (our son) will come to me with their "problems" and I will be able to say, "...cheer up and let me tell you what two good friends from across the Atlantic have to say about this...".

That's fortunate indeed and I can count myself among the lucky ones.

Pls do excuse this public display of emotion -- I guess the "stiff upper lip" is somewhat failing me and words are still inadequate.
jsonic
227 posts
 
Pat,

I wonder if there is a charitable group or organization you would want those of us that choose to remember you could donate to. If you don't believe in that sort of thing and you wanted to have us send money directly to Barb I don't think anyone would find it objectionable. Your words have taken on a life independent of your own. I will print this thread when it's done and use it as a source of comfort and inspiration to the unfortunate ones that may undertake the journey you've travelled so gracefully in the future.
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nrchy
2,124 posts
 
Gregm you should just try to picture Barb as she's a lot cuter than Pat. He'd be quick to say the same thing...

I'm not sure what it means but I still have a picture of Pat that I snapped with my camera phone while we were in Dallas together. I should probably move it to a safer place. I would hate to loose that picture.

Pat - be strong today.
lugnut
1,190 posts
 
J.D., As usual thanks for your words. I can post my address here if you wish. It's already in this thread somewhere. Just to clarify what I'd like Barb to call on is just phone help, walking her through properly boxing stuff or hooking it back up. I'm sure there are Linn guys here and Supratek guys, etc. so she'd get really good help. Maybe she'll need advice on what to do with my ashes after she's got a new boyfriend. Not you J.D.; you've already got a wife. He he. Albert is one fine friend. Address is: 307 W. Sherman Ave. Nampa, Idaho 83686

BTW, Barb knows how to log onto my account and will post updates when I lay down.

Gregm, greetings back at you. I do hope that some good can come of this thread after I'm done with it. It's a terrible thing but I'm getting used to the undeserved compliments. People that have known me my whole life just think my behavior here is a logical extension of who I've always been. Talk too much. LOL. Can't help it, really. Your thoughts are touching, especially the ones regarding your chldren. Maybe yours will listen to what I have to say. Mine don't. There is a photo of Barb and I buried deep in this thread. It was posted by Jphii. Yeah, she's a lot better looking than me. Poor, blind girl got suckered.

Jsonic, I'll have to think the charitable thing over. At first blush I'd like to think there would be several billion dollars offered up so why not start one? Really I'd like you guys to consider what Ampster had to say above. It would be cool if it could be pulled off. Not many have commented on it.

Nate, you need to quit sending me gifts. Save your money and buy that Kinner plug and play record player you've been wanting.

Just a note about weird experiences. So, I'm taking a fair amount of oxycontin so I'm kinda high all the time. Also, I eat and drink so little I'm surprised that I can even sit here and type. I delay taking my morning meds until I've finished writing. I'm no longer the sharpest knife in the drawer. Yesterday was weird. I was seeing things in my peripheral vision and found myself constantly turning my head to see what was going on. It kind of scared me. So, I ate more food than normal and kept it down too. Maybe I can be scared into getting better. LOL. It was unsettling.
clueless
763 posts
 
Hi Patrick:

I posted here a couple years ago and this is the first post I have read since. After reading it, I almost have a feeling that something drew me here so I might learn something.

Being something we all face in some inevitable form or another, I can only hope I find some degree of the strength, courage, grace, and, if fortunate,...friendship witnessed here.

Wishing you and Barb continued strength.

Cheers,
I remain
Clueless (Craig)
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