I sympathize with the OP on his feelings here. My interest in audio and gear has always been high. Much like in the sixties and the dawn of the muscle car era. Fond memories of lusting after the content of Car & Driver before I even had a driver's license. Or being in the military during the Viet Nam era and hearing about all the (then) high end Asian audio gear that people were bringing home.
My issue was always trying to control my desires for buying stuff I really couldn't afford. Interestingly, now in my "golden" years, I can afford at least the lower end of audiophile grade gear, but I don't want to.
I too am a half-fast musician. I have more tied up in my two Martin guitars than my audio/visual system. I'm not into home theater but do have my TV hooked into my two channel system. I'm truly happy with what I have and am totally uninterested in jumping on the wire, cable and fuse bandwagon.
There in the point of this diatribe. My entire system is probably under $7k, all in. There are some who dwell here that denigrate what I have but most are cordial and some are great sources of information. That is the main reason I lurk here. I do find myself feeling like Sheldon on "Big Bang" when he goes into contortions trying to control his tongue. Usually when the discussion devolve into mudslinging about cables, fuses or whatever. Carry on. I guess I'm done for now.