Dear @viridian : You are just rigth: VTF and stylus shape are different concepts.
Several years ago Ortofon left very clear why they suddenly and especially in its MC models changed to way higher VTF that in the past because the MC audiophiles made and ask if that heavier VTF makes higher damage ( than normal VTF ) to the grooves or to the stylus tip and Ortonfon answer was NO and made the overall explanation.
Ortofon MC Diamond and Verissimo, both its top of the line, runs at 2.5gr.-2.8grs. VTF with Replicant stylus tip.
So it’s whith out sense or stupid to think about that " wear " on the grooves due to those two different concepts.
R.