God, I hate to ask this…
Recent conversations with the oncologist have been replete with phrases like ‘stage 4’,metastasis’ and unappealing statistics applied to survival rates. While my real and financial affairs are well settled I am most perplexed with how to approach this large pile of audio stuff e.g. 3 secondary systems in addition to the primary one, several thousand lp’s, a similar number of CD’s/SACD’s, a closet full of cable etc. I am utterly confident that I am not alone in this. While I am comfortable that my wife will love and care for my dog I am less confident that the Avantgardes will elicit such emotional investment. Although my immediate inclination is to cling desperately to these treasured objects it seems patently unfeeling to expect someone else to deal with all of this. My wife will have enough to do. I could just divest myself of much of it and depend on the collection of headphones that I began to amass during the first illness. I really don’t want to do this. I would also like to pre-bequeath much of it to friends assuming that they wanted it but all of them have been adamant in their refusal to discuss this with me and probably will remain so until the 11th hour. As childlike as it seems, I am emotionally invested in these fruits of a lifelong passion and want them to end up where they will be respected and loved . This seems to be a juncture that we will all come to. I would be grateful to hear the contemplations that all you have had in this, admittedly, sobering matter.
To all of you, good cheer and good health.
Sorry to hear about your prognosis and wish you all the best. I’m local and happy to help - not in the industry though it’s my main passion. I’ve been in the market for some loudspeakers (living room, office, and bedroom systems + one at mother’s in Cincy who is recently in a similar position holding the fort down). In any event, feel free to send me a message. I’m in West Loop if you want to sneak out for a bit, if dogs are your fancy. Take care and rest easy.
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I am so very sorry to read this @williamjohnston I pray for some good news and a as long a life as possible for you. The TMR suggestion is a great one quick and painless. And I suggest you liquidate your system quickly the way the universe seems to work you will likely find a new lease on life and have to look for a new system. |
@williamjohnston This thread is by far peak Agon, perhaps why i stay. My fervent hope and prayer you are with most of us years from now. I can’t add anything to the compassion and well reasoned advice above. i did look at your system photo, if possible I would like to be second in line for the dog. My wife and i got a Black Lab to 18… she loved listening to the HiFi. Grace and Peace upon you Sir |
'I'm an anesthesiologist, retired now for about 8 years I have never enjoyed my stereo system as much as I do now. I had a deal going on a few months back where I thought it likely I had lung cancer. Although having had tricky stuff in the past, I had a couple months there to consider my likely mortality until it turned out to be an over-diagnosis. Still, with my background I knew exactly what all that could mean, death being not the worst of it. The preceding measures were the real threat. I don't know about you, but now is the time to enjoy your life, what you have, and maximize what you get out of it. On the whole, your relatives and friends likely won't give a you know what about your stuff. Financially it isn't going to amount to a hill of beans at the end. Should you have knowledgable friends, tell them up front what is for them, even better put it in writing. Then you just forget about it. Give your wife or kid a contact thing for TMR or whatever, then enjoy the heck out of what you have. You will find your appreciation level has gone way up. More important than your gear is your relationship to your loved ones. We all have unfulfilled things in that area, and you have the opportunity to settle some items you may have avoided. In other words, get your mind clear and do not feel sorry for yourself. Audiogon is not the forum for this. |
I can recommend you this music which cured my anxieties and which i listen each time i felt bad: it is not recreational piece nor new age piece but a real healing music repetitive and deeply penetrating : Jonathan Goldman is an expert in meditative and healing music but i tried many of his others pieces so good they are they dont reach to the level of this "medecine musical master piece".. As i said it is not a music to be tasted and appreciated it is a drug pill nothing more nothing less and it work..( it is a mantra grounded in the Christ name ) When i am ill i cannot listen my favorite music because i had a weight on my head and heart, only this music cure me....i used it 35 years, the first time it was for severe panic attack and after 20 minutes the worst was behind like a miracle... I dont claim it will cure you but it will help you a lot... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aJRpoUk-mpU&list=RDaJRpoUk-mpU&start_radio=1&t=111s |
