I am deeply appreciative of the encouragement, good thoughts and clear thinking much in evidence here. Linear problem solving has obviously eluded me here and your ideas have helped to place my situation both in context and perspective. There is some irony in my stressing over the dispatch of objects rather than the dizzying constellation of side effects of immunotherapy. Yes, culling the amount of ‘stuff’ to a manageable and necessary level, creating a concrete plan of disposition for the rest and simply playing this out seems imminently sane. I am happy that I raised this question with a community who would understand what I was talking about. To Jim, I reside in the far southern reaches of metro Chicago.
Again, appreciation and gratitude to you all.
God, I hate to ask this…
Recent conversations with the oncologist have been replete with phrases like ‘stage 4’,metastasis’ and unappealing statistics applied to survival rates. While my real and financial affairs are well settled I am most perplexed with how to approach this large pile of audio stuff e.g. 3 secondary systems in addition to the primary one, several thousand lp’s, a similar number of CD’s/SACD’s, a closet full of cable etc. I am utterly confident that I am not alone in this. While I am comfortable that my wife will love and care for my dog I am less confident that the Avantgardes will elicit such emotional investment. Although my immediate inclination is to cling desperately to these treasured objects it seems patently unfeeling to expect someone else to deal with all of this. My wife will have enough to do. I could just divest myself of much of it and depend on the collection of headphones that I began to amass during the first illness. I really don’t want to do this. I would also like to pre-bequeath much of it to friends assuming that they wanted it but all of them have been adamant in their refusal to discuss this with me and probably will remain so until the 11th hour. As childlike as it seems, I am emotionally invested in these fruits of a lifelong passion and want them to end up where they will be respected and loved . This seems to be a juncture that we will all come to. I would be grateful to hear the contemplations that all you have had in this, admittedly, sobering matter.
To all of you, good cheer and good health.
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I would suggest to get a reasonably priced mixed component and a reasonably priced blue tooth adapter and start streaming music through your phone or IPad. Start selling all your other components including physical media. Your family will never sell it for it is worth. Do it now and pass the benefits of your passion onto your family. Sorry about your change in health status. It is a fate that none of us can deny. |
I went through cancer treatment last year and I realized I had better get some things sold or gone. My wife does not want to deal with some of these things should I not last. I sold off our boat and am sending my rangefinder camera collection to a consigner. I took her to a local audio dealer I have dealt with for decades , who sells both new and used gear, so they could meet and now she is comfortable with the idea of calling them and saying to come over and consign what you think you can sell. I am also looking over my collection of DIY audio parts and realize they have to go next. So much stuff. Boxes on boxes. I wont be building any tube amps,... again. Guess Id better go talk to what little is left of surplus electronics businesses. Sadly, few people seem to be capable DIY projects anymore. I recommend you sell whatever you can, fast. Quality audio is not a priority for most . Gaming yes, audio not so much. |
@williamjohnston Your've got to the time in your life, where the very well established patterns are now fragile and maintenance of regular interests are quite possible as being not as important to be maintained. Your openness on this matter is not the usual, and responding to such a openness is not a daily occurrence for myself. There is the sense that there is a growing need to Finalise Personal Affairs and if one feels the need to include items used to support their Hobby of listening to recorded music as an area to be included in the action of tidying things up, the intensity of how much is put into it is down to the individual. For what it's worth, in the past few years, I have bought Audio Equipment from two recent widowed individuals only as purchases made to help out. l purchased with what I deemed to be a full sensitivity towards the Seller, i.e, not making stupid dealer offers and also sharing with the widower experiences in audio which they seemingly related to and were seemingly contented with hearing. I do believe the meeting had positives, and the widower was glad to have the encounter. Having a selection of items remaining for the family to deal with as your estate, where they are fully aware of the asking price to be a fair sale, might assist them with processing their loss, when they get to the place, the items left are now able to be let go.
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Sorry to hear about the OP Health Issues. This topic has been discussed here and it’s time to face reality, which is that most of the world doesn’t value physical media or the boxes that play them. I have had to be the executor in the last 10 years of my parents and in laws. Even the most organized of them presented a myriad of challenges, as the financial institutions make settling affairs as complicated as possible. Believe me, you don’t want to burden your heirs with your stuff as well |
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