dealing with a newbie. I've been fortunate with my net dealings (about 150 transactions) for the most part although I was burned for $25.00 on two occasions on ebay.
Anyway, I try & do in person deals whenever possible or have family members pick up stuff for me. If a seller responds with a "sure thing, you can pick it up" there's no problem. On more than one occasion I've been told I couldn't pick up for whatever reason & simply looked elsewhere. Of course, when the seller or buyer doesn't respond, it's just not going to happen.
Anyway, I try & do in person deals whenever possible or have family members pick up stuff for me. If a seller responds with a "sure thing, you can pick it up" there's no problem. On more than one occasion I've been told I couldn't pick up for whatever reason & simply looked elsewhere. Of course, when the seller or buyer doesn't respond, it's just not going to happen.