You're selling that? But you just got it


This post is for all you guys that have a SO or wife that sometimes gives you a hard time about the audio addiction. Wives rarely understand this hobby and often object to the expense. It doesn't help that for some reason woman are generally less into music and almost never excited by shiny electronics. So I thought I'd share what worked for me.

My wife was on board with the initial equipment I purchased several years ago when I first got back into hifi after a long break, but she definately was perplexed by any box switching after that and objected to the money spent.

At one point I had a little talk with her and her objections were permanently silenced. The problem was, she just did not understand the hobby. She was under the impression that the hobby was entirely about listening to music. Once you purchased a nice system, you just bought music and enjoyed. While buying and listening to music is also a hobby and also one I enjoy very much, the pursuit of hifi is a different hobby. That's what she did not understand. Once I explained to her that experimenting with different components and various tweaks was all part of the hobby that is the pursuit of hifi perfection, she understood what I was doing. It made sense to her and she stopped objecting. The box swapping IS the hobby. That's what the hobby is! Changing things up in a never ending pursuit to improve the sound quality. The wives and girlfriends just do not understand this unless you explain it to them. It also helps if you explain how you buy and sell used equipment with minimal financial loss. And if you compare the expense (and time spent) to friends that are into golf, lol. You're at home, golfers are never home.

BTW, I'm not talking about crazy box swappers that never even let the dust settle on a piece of equipment. There is no defense for that.
jaxwired
the OP post really makes me laugh. i love it! and for peoples with a similar state of mind to the op, i'd add that instead of talking down to another human being...its much easier just to explain to the wife/girl/husband that all you are really "using this hobby" for is as an excuse to get the hell away from them...that's why there's only one chair in the listening room honey! laughs will ensuing for sure!

once they understand your true motivation...they'll be sure to leave you alone, hopefully for good! eveybody wins!



Its much more primal than that. I tell the Mrs., "would you rather me cheat on my new amp, or cheat on you?"

I could be at the bar or nightclub looking at different women or on audiogon looking at different gear - you decide.
"I could be at the bar or nightclub looking at different women or on audiogon looking at different gear - you decide."

That would be blackmail and extortion.
A joke...................(no offence ladies),

Six reasons why men prefer guns to women;

1- you can trade your old 45 for a 22,
2- you can admire a friends gun and he'll let you try it,
3-your gun stays with you even if you run out of ammo,
4-guns function normally everyday,
5-a gun doesn't mind if you go to sleep after you use it,

and.............

6- you can buy a silencer for a gun.