Great points Jaxwired,
Your findings parallel mine and, I assume, most of us here.
The only successful model I've seen that sells high end, besides internet sellers, is Acoustic Image, in Studio City (just north of LA). Elliot Midwood sells directly out of his home, where he holds demos and receptions for the LA/OC Audio Society and I consider myself lucking enough to know him.
He used to have a salon on Ventura Blvd when times were good but scaled back to his home when things went bad. It's because of people like him that one can be afforded a real view into high end products.
There are others like him out there but they have to and should be sought out if we want, at least, this model to survive. Even if one can't afford high end products, they can steer you to great quality product and demo it for you as well.
As for good, old fashioned brick and mortar types, there still Shelly's Audio out in Woodland Hills who still sells great gear for those who have sensible wallets but still want great sound. But they compete with internet sellers with a customer base that knows their product and who can undercut them on the price. Here's to hoping they can hold out.
All the best,
Nonoise