That's quite a list of "requirements"-- hard to meet them all. If your friend would accept a tubed pre-amp, the Sonic Frontiers Line series of pre-amps could meet all the requirements except, of course they're not solid state. And the stock tubes would have to be changed to get the "warmth" you want.
But the Line series has two pair(s) of XLR terminals out, and a beautiful FULL function remote. It can be warmed up wit NOS tubes, and is available in three models and price levels-- may only be available used in the near term? Good Luck. Craig