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My system has just received the ultimate insult

The girl I have been seeing recently has shown complete indiffrence to my system. (Melos MA-333, Adcom GCD-750, Oddesy Stratus, ML SL3's) Yesterday, I brought up the subject while in my car and she mentioned that she had bought a pair of speakers for $100 that sounded the same. How I wish that were true! I mentioned that she (like others) has no ability to hear or appreciate the difference. She of course disagreed. I said, that is like saying "all people look just about alike and are equally attractive". She again could not see my logic. When we got home, I played a track for her on my $150 sat/sub with a $20 portable CD player and asked her to listen to it. I then played the same track for her on my system and to my amazement, she said it sounded noticable WORSE! She described it as sounding like a radio station that was not tuned properly with lots of static. What I am assuming is that she has never heard a system that had any kind of hi-freq extension and likened it to "static". Others have heard my system and are completely blown away with every aspect of how it sounded. We have much different tastes in the music we listen to. I have 2 questions to ask, 1) is it possible that she could enjoy listening to 'Her' stereo as much as I enjoy listening to mine? 2) may I continue to be involved with her and still have the respect of my peers?

For the record, I listened to it last night after the insult, and it sounded as wonderful and envolving as ever!
pmwoodward
cornfedboy
1,645 posts
 
tim: please try to remember that i'm old enuf to be your dad. what the hell, maybe your granddad. as you know, i've been married to the same woman for damn near 35 years now. my bride and i have been able to suffer one another for all that time by recognizing the difference between what's really important and what we may think is important for the moment. children are important. parents are important. love is important. even music is important. but in the universe of values, beliefs and yearnings, your audio system, at any given time, is but one of a million, billion, trillion stars. it's a lucky astronomer, indeed, who might detect it. and one more fortunate still who can appreciate its relative luminescence. -cfb
inscrutable
312 posts
 
Married 21 years and going strong ... and I completely agree with Kelly. Try the fix-it suggestions, and it'd be great if they work, but so what if this is just your hobby and not hers too? You need to be n sync (ouch) on the important issues, and this isn't one of 'em.
jeffloistarca
1,004 posts
 
Lots and lots of perfectly good dogs looking for a home at the dog pound. Dogs don't nag you to pick up after yourself. Dogs don't care if you eat cold pizza for breakfast. Dogs understand if the contents of your fridge is limited to liquids only. Dogs intuitively understand that the best place to tune up your skis is the living room. Dogs don't care what your rig sounds like, nor do they care how much you spend on it. Dogs do like to be scratched behind the ears.
detlof
1,899 posts
 
PM, before following Cornfed's excellent advice (is he doing divorce cases as well?!) I'd have the lady's ears tested. Maybe she can hear like a bat and you DO have static above 20khz. If the test turns out positive, ask her, if she has relatives in Transilvania. If that turns out positive as well, follow Bob_ Bundus advice at once, RUN!!!!(-;
kthomas
911 posts
 
I used to think that it would be the ultimate to find a woman who liked my hobbies as much as I do since I had a lot of experience finding women who actively didn't like them. I now realize that I found the perfect mate because we're VERY compatible on kids, family, religious outlook, politics, etc., and she is completely apathetic about my pasttimes (as I am hers) - she is more than happy that I enjoy sitting around watching basketball and listening to music endlessly. She's just glad I don't make her do it with me. I guess if I could have everything else the same AND have her be passionate about music and gear, I'd love that too, but not at the expense of giving up something else. And I couldn't go back to having a significant other who resented my pasttimes.

I certainly wouldn't get out of the relationship based on this experience (actually, I wasn't sure that was a serious question), but I'd certainly try to understand what it's telling you if this has the potential to be long term. If she's telling you she resents the hobby, the money, etc., and those things are important to you, you need to decide how significant they are to you. -Kirk

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