Is a subwoofer 'overkill?'


i just bought a subwoofer hereabouts. The deal want well and i hooked it up. i can certainly 'hear' it. My wife is agast.

Yes, even at the lowest settings it sounds a bit loud.

Thoughts. Should I save it for movies? Turn it off when she gets home?

Note; This is a woman who can hear changes I make when I roll my tubes, better than I can. She know even when I don't tell her.

Bummer: the wife has zero appreciation of high-end audio, but hears better than me.
unclejeff
Velodyne SMS-1 EQ/RTA is the way to go. You can smooth out the bass peaks/valleys and when the wife gets home, put it in night mode in which reduces output up to(user adjustable) 20%-90%!
+1 on room mode excitation. Try some different locations away from corners and walls. Set your crossover on a low setting and then bring your output level up until you can detect the sub working. Women are more sensitive to low frequency then men.
My main speakers are good to 25 hz, so I only use the subwoofer when me and my boys want to watch some testosterone driven, explosion filled movie and rattle the windows. My wife usually goes shopping during this time. :)
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