I do not want to run the second line out to my amps as this takes away from running the system via balanced from my preamp and amps. I am thinking of what Marty just described.
You lost me there. You said you had two line-outs at your pre. I'm using the two outputs on my preamp, one going to the sub, the other going to my amp which goes to my Coincidents. I prefer this to running the signal through the X-over components in the sub. So both components are getting a full range signal to deal with. The sub deals with it via the high-pass, phase and volume. I'm not sure what what approach you're considering, but it sounds like the one Marty describes is the same as what I'm using. It is also recommended by ACI. My room is 12X24 with cathedral ceilings (sloped 7 to 11 feet) and getting wider (16 feet), and taller (14 feet) at one end. So perhaps about 1/2+ the volume of your room.