Rinpoche, to a some extent price is not an indicator of quality. Both the VAC and the Rowlands are truly premium quality products that charge premium prices. I'm not going to argue that you could match or exceed their sound quality at a substantially lower price, but I do argue that you can achieve the sound qualities you desire at a lower price. You would have to do a side by side comparison to uncover the "lesser" components and fortunately long term happiness doesn't involve side by side comparisons.
Specifically, both Rowland and Ayre make integrated solid state amps in the $10k area. Pass, Hegel and BAT make solid state power amps in the $5-8k range. RAM makes a wonderful tube power amp at $5k. Grace, Mytek, Esoteric (Teac), MSB and Bricasti make great quality DACs that can all be used as preamps at a lower cost than the Rowland.
These are my opinions, so take them for what they are. From you post it sounds like you have good ears -- ultimately you should trust them.
Specifically, both Rowland and Ayre make integrated solid state amps in the $10k area. Pass, Hegel and BAT make solid state power amps in the $5-8k range. RAM makes a wonderful tube power amp at $5k. Grace, Mytek, Esoteric (Teac), MSB and Bricasti make great quality DACs that can all be used as preamps at a lower cost than the Rowland.
These are my opinions, so take them for what they are. From you post it sounds like you have good ears -- ultimately you should trust them.