Viridian, the closest to creating the experience you described is in a movie theater; a listening room is a long way from a movie theater.
I had a Phase Linear 4 channel, that was interesting; it created some ambiance, and had features like a "dynamic range expander", that did just that; but when it comes to accurately recreating music, I prefer the way were going, which requires a lot of expertise, but it can't be beat in the small area of a listening room.
Until we complete the journey were on, we wont know how far we can go. I'm enjoying the ride in the meantime.
Have fun along the way.