Hey bullitt5094,
First, I would highly recommend that you contact Mark or Will at Linear Tube Audio and ask how much the upgrade is to modify a Micro-ZOTL to have a HT-bypass installed. The cost of this piece is around $1,700.00. Nothing and I mean nothing can touch this in its performance as a preamplifier for thousands of dollars more.
Next, call Steve at Quest For Sound and ask if they still have any Consonance Cyber-30 SET 2A3 amplifiers in stock that retail for $1,150.00. I mentioned this earlier on this thread that for the $ this well built little amplifier sounds great being driven by the Micro-ZOTL on the DI's. I do believe that each of these companies have a return policy if you are not pleased with the piece. I had the volume control taken out of the circuit, which is very easy to do by removing one set of wires, which increased the performance of Cyber-30 greatly, but you could still get your take on it to see if it's what you want, knowing it gets better by the easy modification and be able to return it if you are not satisfied.
If you really play your system at 110dB peaks, hope not very often-even on movie sound tracks for the sake of your hearing, I can't guarantee you will hit this sound pressure range, however you might be shocked how close you would be able to come to it. I have a very large acoustic space and have no problems filling it at very high volume levels with no attenuation/distortion at all. If you are that concerned about this you could try the Cyber-10 ( KT66 or 6550 tubes) that puts out around 12 watts, compared to the Cyber-30 2A3 5 watts, but different tubes have different sonics, so I can't predict what this amp sounds like. I do like KT66 and 6550 power tubes, however, they don't sound like 2A3's.
The total retail price for both pieces is $2,850.00 way under your budget of 4K which leaves enough money to do some serious tube rolling! If you contact either of these vendors tell them that I say hi.