gryphongryph,
"Sorry, not to judge,..."
...is almost always followed by judgement...and a lecture ;-)
We are audiophiles. The gear is part of the hobby. If it wasn’t, we wouldn’t be here (including you).
Men (it seems more than women) are often into "how things work," with a fascination for engineering, how things work, how to improve them etc.Guys fix cars, collect watches, and are in to the mechanics and theory in all manner of hobbies. Why would you think the technical aspect of sound reproduction wouldn’t be a source of fascination as well?
I’ve tried speakers representing many different engineering approaches to reproducing sound: planar, dynamic, time-coherent, non-time-coherent, narrow baffle, wide baffle, dead-braced cabinets, "live" cabinets, omni-directional, etc. (And I own many of those different designs right now). The engineering aspect is fascinating - that is after all why many speaker designers get into speaker design in the first place! (Or other aspects of audio engineering).
As it happens, I’m a music omnivore and want my music to be reproduced in the most compelling way I can find. But, the huge variety of approaches one can sample in reproduced sound is also fascinating in of itself. I have more than one speaker because my music sounds different through each of them and sometimes I feel like enjoying one type of presentation over another. If I didn't care about such differences, I'd just own a bose wave radio or whatever is convenient.
I don’t see any reason to begrudge someone who loves audio gear, and buys numerous different components, than I would begrudge a car, or watch lover who has the means to explore numerous options that may float their boat.