In my very limited experience with short runs and fully balanced gear (Ayre), I have found balanced ICs to be less variable in sound quality than single ended, which intuitively and technically makes sense. Eg many people report Mogami Gold to get them most of what they need sound wise. I would start there before spending a ton of money, then audition a few things to see if it's worthwhile.
My personal go-to for both RCA and XLR is DH Labs Air Matrix, which runs in the $300-400 price range brand new. It's quite neutral and detailed and won't add a ton of its own color. In XLR I have found it to be very close to ICs costing 5x as much.
If you need something on the slightly sweeter side of neutral, Audience also makes very nice stuff. And of course there is Cardas but I have found their stuff to be very system dependent.
My personal go-to for both RCA and XLR is DH Labs Air Matrix, which runs in the $300-400 price range brand new. It's quite neutral and detailed and won't add a ton of its own color. In XLR I have found it to be very close to ICs costing 5x as much.
If you need something on the slightly sweeter side of neutral, Audience also makes very nice stuff. And of course there is Cardas but I have found their stuff to be very system dependent.