@honashagen have you considered that the room may be the issue? Treating the room with for example a set of SR HFTs may give you not only control of the room but also an ability to tune the high frequencies to suit your taste. For example in my room adding or removing one HFT at ear level front and center has a major impact on specificity and level of high frequencies (this is even true for removing one ball on the Vibratron but the SR ART system is much more expensive)
My point is that you need to consider how the speakers and room interact and by adjustng this may be able to tailor the sound to suit your preferences
My point is that you need to consider how the speakers and room interact and by adjustng this may be able to tailor the sound to suit your preferences