3) Radio Tuner- Nobody want's them anymore. I just gave away a great Proton Tuner. You can find them on craigslist for a song.I better get looking. I still play the radio on my system! Right now I running a modified Dynaco.
I agree getting the Onkyo out of the system will help its overall sound. I also think there is no reason at this point to suspect filter capacitors in the power supplies of either the amp or preamp. You can run the tape outputs of any receiver into the ARC Auxiliary inputs no worries.
There is this thing that is well-known in the high end audio world called 'WAF': Wife Acceptance Factor. If you have a room at your regular home that is yours, that would be the typical place a system like this might reside if the WAF does not allow it in the living room. This is a pretty common phenomena. The thing is, the better you get the system to sound, the more likely your wife might want to hear it. Women often have less damaged hearing than men, so they can often hear high frequency artifacts (harshness and brightness) that are known irritants! This is a bit less true in the last 20 years or so as women have been making their way into noisier work environments. But as a general rule if your wife does not want the stereo playing, its a sign that either she really doesn't like your musical tastes (or lack thereof) or she is hearing problems in the system that you don't.
If its the latter, I would not play the system for her until its had time to wake up, which might take a good 200 hours of playing time. When you are at the cabin I would have the system on the whole time, even if not playing anything as this will help. If the former, you're screwed and you will have to limit your playing time to when she is not around. Good Luck!