Koetsu Rosewood - Best/safest way to clean stylus

My Magic Eraser gets stuck to stylus about half the time I do my thing. I use a small cut-off piece with no appreciable mass, so to kick it off with a gentle downward nudge means no harm done. The key is to keep forces below what the stylus/cantilever would encounter during normal playback. When you ham-fist it, or your cleaning lady goes to town with a duster - those forces are orders of magnitude greater than any of these normal cleaning forces, and THAT’s what it takes to truly destroy the cartridge. The abrasion of the ME isn’t going to do jack to the diamond, or even glue/metal, except polish it. All you need to worry about is the pulling/pushing forces involved, which is small even for a careful "rough" cleaning. And the original ME is also very compliant, which means there's some absorption of the forces involved. 

The way some of you guys think, I’m surprised you even play vinyl at all for fear of damaging your stylus. You ever drop on the long lead-in groove on a 12" 45, and see what kind of forces that involves? Yikes.

To answer @uberwaltz’s question about what ME is exactly, it is melamine foam. It was originally developed as a soundproofing material and I’ve used it as such --in large sheets combined with mass loaded vinyl- this is not ’acoustic treatment’ this is’ kill the sound from emanating’ kind of stuff.
To my knowledge, it was @dougdeacon who first started employing ME as a stylus cleaner. I have used it in the past and it is very effective, far more than dry brushing or those gels, like Onzow/Oznow. I’ve also used the Blu stuff that Peter recommends. Never an issue with either, but I make sure to dry brush afterwards, particularly with the ME, which can leave abrasive residue.
If you look it up, it’s all these tiny fibers and the cleaning action is, I think it is fair to say, a type of friction on a very small level- like scraping the edges of the diamond. Perhaps my terminology is wrong but that’s how it seems to work. It is abrasive-- you can use it to scrub household stuff but I will remove finishes. Never wet it- the fibers will bind and you will be in XXXX-ville.
I’m really liking a long brush I found because it accomplishes what @mulveling was describing- not only cleaning the stylus, but the cantilever too. I have very clean records and try to keep my playing environment dust free (an endless battle even with good HVAC) but there was a lot of crud deposited on the top of the cantilever of my last cartridge, which is now out for rebuild. I’m currently using a Koetsu Jade Platinum and loving the hell out of it.
PS: I also use a pair of illuminated magnifying glasses that help me see the stylus when I’m brushing. I may look like a complete jerk but I can see exactly what I’m doing. The magnification isn’t very strong, like 3X. I have jeweler’s loupes at 10X and digital microscopes, but those get kind of tricky to work with when you are doing something other than taking a look.

Question for @montaldo- you said you spoke to the Koetsu distributor and he uses a liquid? Was that the US distributor? Just curious. I used to use liquid on the Lyras since it was meant for it, but so far on my Koetsu, which is brand new, I haven't done anything but dry brush yet....

I use high purity vodka every 5 hours or so. Tilt the Koetsu down and brush carefully.

@terry9 

"I use high purity vodka every 5 hours or so."....

That's cool. What do you do with the cartridge?

Ah - the Koetsu demands a DRC burgundy.