fasteddie...there's chemical assistance for that now. ;) All you have to do is to adjust the dosage to get the desired....*ah* 'response'.... ;)
Personally, I prefer 'input' from the spouse. But, since you've not that 'option' at this time you'll have to take matters into your own hand(s)....
(Sorry....I wandered into this, and couldn't resist being a az....I'll go away now....*poof*)