Dealer behavior issue


I would like opinions as to whether members feel that I’m being unreasonable to think
that a very popular dealer has not performed so well on my behalf, the customer. Last summer I ordered an expensive ARC amp understanding that delivery would most likely be in Oct which was fine with me. I did make a commitment which I understand.
My situation seriously changed due to my wife’s health but I agree that’s not his problem.
At this point I requested to pay a handsome restocking fee, 2-3k, can’t remember the amount but he was cavalier saying why would I want to do this?
So that was that.
The unit is about to be delivered and as I’ll immediately resell the unopened box I gave him a last offer.
The transaction had a current unit model trade in that retailed for 8k and is a favorite product of his and he carries it.
Yesterday I offered to give him this unit as the restock fee with 90 days to fully refund me.
I have received no response so he didn’t like my offer which is his right. I have spent over 40k retail over the last two years with him with no problems.
So in the end I changed my mind which is the lowest form of audio behavior. Was I foolish to think this guy would accommodate me? The product I offered to GIVE him will fly out his door for $4k .
This is just business as usual ?
4425
Name the dealer, tell him complained about how he handled your transaction in this Audiogon thread , send him the link and let him give his side of the story
in the end it’s just regrettable. affording the amp was never the problem and i never claimed it. it’s that i have no need for it anymore. my problem.
i think he’s a really nice guy and it’s a head scratcher. I offered $3000 to cancel the deal before the unit was built. This is not accommodating. maybe he’s in a jam. regardless i’m not going to trash him bc i’ve always liked him but that’s been crushed. no more to say as this must be a unique situation. he clearly doesn’t like me and that’s disappointing too.
oh last thing. be looking for a great deal on a brand new ARC amp in the near future. it’s a beauty and will be a very good seller.
@4425 -  If you and your dealer can't reconcile: here's hoping you can move it, without too much pain.
Is this an amp that the dealer is making 8-10 grand on?? If so, it's probably no more complicated than that.

I’m surprised at the amount of your deposit and method of payment, when your relationship was built on years of mutual trust and fulfillment. Whose offer or request was it to make such a generous commitment to purchase, rather than just a minimal consideration of anything more than say $100?