speakers or room???

First things first...probably get your ears tested by an audiologist.  That's not realistic at this time...so at least do a few sweep tests on youtube.

Then examine the room...then speaker position...then different speakers etc..

I have tinnitus (4000hz notch) from an ear infection at age 25.  Earlier this year (at age 52) I got a bass boost (way too much) in my left ear and then suddenly lost nearly all the bass and mid tones in my left ear. When you loose mid and low bass you can't properly locate who's talking in a room full of people. It sucks...especially when you've just plunked some good money on your first tube amplifier.

Anyway, I like you, had a boost in the mids that were annoying when listening to piano or when vocals hit the right notes.  I think when you loose some frequency spectrum, your brain compensates by turning up
the other frequencies.

I went to an audiologist and was treated with steroid injections in the eardrum and prednisone...lots of follow ups and nothing. I was told that the condition was most likely permanent and that a hearing aid would be necessary. 

The good news is that unlike upper frequency hearing loss, low tone loss can, sometimes, be recovered by itself or through therapy.  In my case it came back by itself only very recently but not to the same level as before...but I got 70% back. When you get it back, your speakers magically regain that lost imaging...a drive in the car sounds completely different...and you're not asking your wife to repeat everything she says. 

I've always worn earplugs to concerts and movies since my first episode of hearing loss at age 25. I've been so careful with my hearing but it's age and trauma that does our ears in. 

Good luck and happy listening all! 

@dtapo - A while back a friend asked me about his listening space - it was an open concept apartment with 12 ft high concrete ceiling and walls and hardwood floor. His kitchen cabinets did not go to the ceiling.

I had achieved a lot of success in my own living space by using a vinyl roller blind behind the listening position.

Since I had some spare vinyl lying around so I took it down to his apartment and tried hanging it in different locations & positions. 

The vinyl was 8ft wide and 24" tall

It turned out that the best position for the vinyl was at ceiling height on the wall facing the speakers and also as a "barrier" between the audio system and the kitchen. 

On further investigation there was considerable reflection issues between his ceiling and the top of his kitchen cabinets.

So now I tend to "look up" when thinking about room treatments. 

A lot of companies that deal with sound issues in commercial spaces have great success with treatment on the ceilings. Vinyl lines drapes are also effective for noise suppression.

Good luck with solving you problem.
 

+1 on hearing test (and me too)

+1 on "the room"

OK I found a tone generator online and using my Sony noise-cancelling headphones, I discovered a few things about my ears. My total range of hearing is from 25Hz to 12.2 kHz, although the extremes are barely audible. There are a couple of hot-spots where it gets almost painful at 2500 and 4100 Hz and around 3000 drops out considerably. I also noticed that there were volume differences between Lt and Rt at certain frequencies. So that's one thing. I haven't had a proper hearing test in 30 years.

Next, I'll run the sweep through my speakers (after my wife leaves} and see what that turns up.

Thanks for all the ideas and comments so far.

Bummer 😕

Has anyone had any luck with a professional ear cleaning / wax removal help with this?