Northman,
First off, do yourself the best favor you could ever do in this sport, go listen to the Bryston Model T's. Most likely you will find the standard 'Passive Crossover' version out there; that is what my pair started out life as. I run tremendous power here with my large space, 2000 watts per channel at 4 ohms and I decided I wanted to upgrade my T's to the 'Signature' version which uses massive, Mil-Spec built (gorgeous circuit boards with huge air core wound inductors) external PX-1 crossovers with triple dedicated inputs on the back of the speakers for each section. Ian at Axiom wanted me to ship the speakers back to him for the conversion and James Tanner at Bryston supplied me the pair of PX-1's. I decided to do the conversion myself as I have a nice cabinet shop in my barn with all of the equipment needed and that way I don't have to pack up two massive speakers on a pallet to ship to Canada and risk damage. It took me about three days of work to complete everything using OEM parts Axiom shipped me. The difference in performance with the PX-1 is just breathtaking! Find the Signatures to listen to.
Secondly, you should really look at the Axiom EP500V4 , this is a fabulous Sub; plus the amp is designed with a DSP circuit which will not allow the sub to be over driven or distort, you cannot kill these speakers. It's all Axiom/Bryston proprietary designs and ALL of the components are made in Canada, no overseas Chinese stuff. SVS was completely built in China and uses switching power supplies from what I saw (I burnt up six of their subs, both amps and drivers). JL I don't know much about but I believe from what someone told me that they use some Chinese components.
Thirdly, I think that if you are using properly designed gear, you should not be using any room correction type software to EQ your room. I have Anthem for my preamp and it's a wonderful piece with powerful ARC software with a fancy Mic. But after running it and allowing the computers to 'balance' the room, I turned it off and went full flat with just my Model T's and the amps/preamps and 3 subs. Hands down, no software EQ at all, flat just beat the hell out of the software. When I spoke with James at Bryston, he told me that they never use any software room correction in their spaces and Ian at Axiom said the same thing. Properly designed equipment should not need anything other than your own playing with speaker placement and location and phasing; which is far more fun too.
If you happen to be in Northern New England, you are welcome to stop in for a listen before you do anything.