looking for advice on bookshelf speakers

I'm another who doesn't tolerate over emphasized high frequencies very well. The suggestion of finding a monitor with a soft dome tweeter is a starting point but not always the answer.
I recently purchased a pair of Dynaudio 1.3SEs which use a soft dome tweeter but I found I kept turning the volume down. They really bothered my ears. Oddly enough, I'm currently listening to the Dynaudio Focus 110s and seriously keep turning them up. Go figure.
What I have found is a good speaker makes me want to turn the volume up. Not because the speakers don't sound good at low volume, but because they sound so good I just want to hear more.
My favorite monitors are the Soliloquy 5.0s. They sound very right with no listener fatigue. Another speaker I enjoy is the Snell J-7. They are about the same size as your Paradigms. Extremely detailed and clean without being harsh on the ear. I believe their clean sound is what keeps them from sounding harsh.
BTW, I used to own the Studio 60v.2.

Thanks to everyone so far . Some great points. There is a Dynaudio retailer here in MN. I will be checking them out. Also will be looking into a tubed integrated as suggested.

Just before looking to see how this thread was coming along i had an idea about replacing the tweeters on the paradigms with the silk dome tweets and started a thread in the tech talk dept to see if that would be a possibility.

I really like the mids and bass response of the paradigms. A new pair of silk tweete are around $90 from partsexpress. That would be a huge money saver if they are compatible.

I'm sensitive to high frequencies as well. Aerial 5's, Spendor and Harbeth are may favourites - you might also consider Cardas cabling. Not sure what your are using now, brands like Kimber, Nordost and Audience can brighten up a system to the point of pain sensitivity.

The Paradigms are definitely on the lean/bright side of things. Not surprised you are having a problem.

Integrated amps from Exposure and Rega would suit you, if you head in that direction. Tubes obviously are another alternative.

I'm using Cardas cables, tube integrated and Harbeths. Lots of detail with absolutely no fatigue.

I am using Kimber Kable Hero interconnects. MIT AVT 1 speaker cable. I have a PSE studio 2 amp and PSE studio l linestage . along with a NAD integrated and a Van Alstine omega 3 amp . I will be selling all of those to fund a new/used integratd .

Meiwan , what line of the cardas products do you recommend ? my comfort level for price is :$100-300 for speaker cables and up to $200 for ic's (used prices).It's funny you mention exposure, as last night i was also recommended that brand from a guy i bought a NAD piece from.

Cardas Neutral Reference would suit. Might be just slightly over your price point.

Cross would be your price point used. Depending on the amp/speaker combo, you might find it a little too full bodied, or maybe just right????

The Exposure 3010s2 is very nice - lots of body and texture. Not particularly 'airy', but certainly easy on the ears.