What makes a speaker too big for a given room?

In general the more drivers and the farther apart the drivers are they are the further back you have to sit for them to integrate. Also speakers with a lot of bass may overwhelm a smell room. But remember, this is a matter of taste. I use to tease a friend that his Tannoy GRFs were the world's largest headphones as he sat right on top of these very large speakers.The advantage of using seperate subs is that you can tune to bass to fit the room more easily. FOR MOST PEOPLE monitor speakers , with or without subs, will work better in a small room but YMMV.

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What Stanwall said. If you cant get far enough away, then you might hear each driver seperately instead of as one wavefront. Some time aligned speakers are designed with a certain listening distance in mind. Also, bass notes have a long wavelength, some exceeding 20 feet, so a 25hz note might not even create a single wavelength before it bounces off the rear wall and back on to itself.

Small rooms are better suited to stand mount monitors. I use a NHT Classic 3 in a 11 x 11 room with good success.

It's obvious you guys have never been to Japan !!!! Tiny rooms and humongous speakers are seen more often than not. Like the poster above said, worlds largest headphones !!!!

Some explanations never make se.se to me, here is my question. If I have a monitor speaker with a added sub I get 20hz full range bass, now I can also get a 5ft tall full range floor model that in itself goes to 20hz. Now if my room is considered small people will say go with my first option and may say NEVER consider option 2. But 20hz is 20hz right? So why is one idea too big and other isnt??