The sad fact of the matter, a glass half empty kind of guy will always see the world as half empty. The CW was and still is that auditions are essential, and preferably in-home auditions.
Back in the 90’s this made a lot of sense. Or so it seemed. In reality we soon discovered even all the stores up and down the I5 corridor from Portland to north of Seattle, none of them could touch the one dealer who helped me the most. Or maybe better to say all of them together had nowhere near as much worth buying as this one. Who worked out of his home. By appointment only.
All the big box stores have one very big in fact insurmountable problem in that they must generate massive profits in order to cover their massive overhead. This is why they are driven to one of two extremes: either they are Best Buy moving volume, or Definitive selling Wilson and other famous dreck to their unsuspecting but loaded customers.
If you want to keep audio alive and flourishing oldaudiophile, which you should and I applaud, then you should focus your efforts where they will do some good. The big box stores are never gonna be the place. They will for the reasons above never be the place. Ignore them. Treat them the way they treat me when I go in there: ignore.
Put all your time and energy into supporting the quality manufacturers selling direct. Tekton, Decware, Raven, Herron, and others here in the USA, but also Townshend, Origin Live, Audio Hungary and the like overseas.
Doing this is a two-fer. Direct sales eliminates huge dealer markups, puts you directly in touch with the maker who has a direct stake in your satisfaction, and more directly supports those who are really doing the work that advances the hobby. Oops- make that a three-fer!
Forget your audition requirement. I haven’t auditioned a single thing in more than a dozen years, and I have done just fine.
https://systems.audiogon.com/systems/8367 This system is to die for. Not one thing there was heard in any store. Not one thing there is even carried in any store, not within a days drive anyway. Yet it is all fantastic stuff. Not a single disappointment. In a dozen years. If I can do it, anyone can.
So learn to read reviews. Search the interwebs for user comments. DYODD. Support direct sales. And when you find your gem, share your impressions. Write your own reviews. That’s how you will help keep audiophilia and the love of music alive and well.