why do so many discussions turn contentious?


just venting....why do so many discussion posts need to turn  contenious and nasty?  do you guys find that constructive and/or enjoyable?  I have no clue who or how this forum is moderated, but I sure would love to see a stop to that...it makes me feel like this hobby is dominated by total jerks.

Can't we play nice, share OPINIONS and OBSERVATIONS, realizing that  they often are subjective and biased.  
"if you dont have anything nice to say, say nothing"?  If you wish to disagree, do it in a constructive and mature fashion, no need for "argument ad hominem"...

with all the chaff, one must waste so much time finding the wheat, figuratively speaking.  

I doubt my writing this will change anything, but, like most social media, people writing to others without facing them does not bring out the best, sadly......



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Mostly a lurker, curious to learn, but from observation these two stand out 1) snarky, political non sequiturs such as: "It’s the liberals" and 2) allowing the one contributor to repeatedly hijack treads with condescending gibberish about Tektons.  It's tedious, loses readers and should not be indulged to the degree it is here.
I hope I'm not an angry old man. Getting old, but in the process, seem to have less and less to get angry about, at least as relates to the topics relevant to this forum. 
@jjss49 
Off topic but not really as contentious is just  noise until something comes about that you feel passionate about.

I saw your Sonnet Morpheus DAC on your systems page.  I've read about it but any comments about it you'd like to share?
Not a lot of people are truly nice.
The world was never that way. This site is not any different.

Social media can certainly put a stark light on our fragile egos. I’ve had a few people go at me here. I have thick skin so I mostly just feel embarrassed for them.

But there’s a lot of useful information here and some wisdom and some great humor.
It keeps me interested.

I will say this. And I hate to say it. The behavior on this site, is worse than most.
There are lots of jerks everywhere....why would this site be any different? Coincidentally, there have been a few videos posted to you tube about audiophile jerk/snobs just recently.