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why do so many discussions turn contentious?

just venting....why do so many discussion posts need to turn  contenious and nasty?  do you guys find that constructive and/or enjoyable?  I have no clue who or how this forum is moderated, but I sure would love to see a stop to that...it makes me feel like this hobby is dominated by total jerks.

Can't we play nice, share OPINIONS and OBSERVATIONS, realizing that  they often are subjective and biased.  
"if you dont have anything nice to say, say nothing"?  If you wish to disagree, do it in a constructive and mature fashion, no need for "argument ad hominem"...

with all the chaff, one must waste so much time finding the wheat, figuratively speaking.  

I doubt my writing this will change anything, but, like most social media, people writing to others without facing them does not bring out the best, sadly......



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thepigdog
257 posts
 
Audio opinions are like a**holes, everybody has one. And being semi anonymous noboby is afraid to voice their "ideas".
tireddad2
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Through technology we have become an impersonal world where minimal face to face human interaction dominates. Basic manners are not required.  Heck, the basic respect and civility required for face to face interactions barely exists in the real world anymore, and definitely not on this or other forums.  There are very few forums that do not devolve into name calling or cheap shots. There are no consequences for doing so. 

Everyone involved in name calling or posting cheap shots blames the other posters.  I cringe as I read some of the posts on this forum. 

Each of these forums are populated with persons that came to that forum in the first place because of the same interest.  So stop the cycle. Post your opinion respectfully without the cheap shot.  Simple.

 

Here are some quotes to ponder.

“Through a vicious circle of pure reason skepsis itself becomes dogma.”  Johann Georg Hamann German philosopher

“No man burdens his mind with small matters unless he has some very good reason for doing so.”   Arthur Conan Doyle

“The reason that university politics is so vicious is that the stakes are so small.” Attributed to Henry Kissinger.

 

Apply any of these quotes to any hobbyist forum. This forum is not alone in the devolving rhetoric. Only we can change it.  Not the moderators.
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jw944ts OP
326 posts
 
well, the point of my question/original post, was to hopefully raise some consciousness about this "pattern of the times", not thinking of curing it, but hoping to make all participants somewhat thoughtful about how and what they write here....perhaps I am optimistic in thinking we have achieved a small step in that direction?
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baylinor
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All blogs contain some vicious people, empowered by the anonymous nature of it. I learned long ago, through blogs other than audiogon, to simply ignore them. It actually carries much more weight than arguing with them. They do not like to be ignored :)
If you let them get to you, find another way to communicate than through blogs is my advice. 
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