why do so many discussions turn contentious?


just venting....why do so many discussion posts need to turn  contenious and nasty?  do you guys find that constructive and/or enjoyable?  I have no clue who or how this forum is moderated, but I sure would love to see a stop to that...it makes me feel like this hobby is dominated by total jerks.

Can't we play nice, share OPINIONS and OBSERVATIONS, realizing that  they often are subjective and biased.  
"if you dont have anything nice to say, say nothing"?  If you wish to disagree, do it in a constructive and mature fashion, no need for "argument ad hominem"...

with all the chaff, one must waste so much time finding the wheat, figuratively speaking.  

I doubt my writing this will change anything, but, like most social media, people writing to others without facing them does not bring out the best, sadly......



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I like how this post is about admonishing contentious behavior and a few people already have fallen in to it. Outstanding. 




Simple solution to this problem, folks...Ban those who can't play well with others. It's called responsible site moderating.
Needed post. Thanks.
Lonely old men playing in a free sandbox with no timeout chair.
I believe in moderation, not by the mods, but by one's inner morals and sense of decency.
The post referring to orange monster goes a long way in explaining what is transpiring. 
Also post referring to threats to one's significant investments is also spot on.
And envy and insecurity explains much of the nastiness. Let's all do better.