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why do so many discussions turn contentious?

just venting....why do so many discussion posts need to turn  contenious and nasty?  do you guys find that constructive and/or enjoyable?  I have no clue who or how this forum is moderated, but I sure would love to see a stop to that...it makes me feel like this hobby is dominated by total jerks.

Can't we play nice, share OPINIONS and OBSERVATIONS, realizing that  they often are subjective and biased.  
"if you dont have anything nice to say, say nothing"?  If you wish to disagree, do it in a constructive and mature fashion, no need for "argument ad hominem"...

with all the chaff, one must waste so much time finding the wheat, figuratively speaking.  

I doubt my writing this will change anything, but, like most social media, people writing to others without facing them does not bring out the best, sadly......



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jpwarren58
669 posts
 
Needed post. Thanks.
Lonely old men playing in a free sandbox with no timeout chair.
I believe in moderation, not by the mods, but by one's inner morals and sense of decency.
The post referring to orange monster goes a long way in explaining what is transpiring. 
Also post referring to threats to one's significant investments is also spot on.
And envy and insecurity explains much of the nastiness. Let's all do better. 

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tomic601
12,911 posts
 
Well he did say “ grab em by the morals “…..
skywachr
124 posts
 
mwatsme,

I think you nailed it:

"I think it’s because many of these (mostly) guys have a lot of money/time/effort invested in the hobby, and it has become a significant part of their self-identity. Different ideas threaten that investment and identity, so they lash-out in defense (fear) or offense (pride). We (myself included) should all remember to, "Fear nothing and respect everything.", as it would likely result in an online environment reading less like tabloid drama, and more like helpful support."
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jw944ts OP
325 posts
 
Lots of good points. Let’s all now agree that the reasons may be many, but we can and need to do better. Play nice and be respectful!
mitch2
3,967 posts
 
@whart 
Getting old, but in the process, seem to have less and less to get angry about, at least as relates to the topics relevant to this forum.
+1, same here.

Nothing much to add to this discussion except maybe we should consider the consequences of bad behavior on these forums that reaches the level where new members and potential members decide not to participate.
We are what we tolerate.
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