It’s completely accurate,
No it’s not.
You wrote:
the people who will have a big problem with this are the bungholes who want to use the dealer services for free and then buy off the internet.
But I have a problem with it becoming routine to pay simply to hear gear at a dealer, yet I don’t fit the description of someone who is dicking around dealers in the way you just described.
And I don’t think I’m that unusual. None of my audiophile friends are the "bungholes" you describe, but I bet they wouldn’t think it a good idea for dealers to start routinely charging for customers to hear anything in their showroom.
You shouldn’t forget there are two parts to the equation here. Yes, audiophiles may be grateful if there is a dealer nearby where they can hear gear.
On the other hand, the customer is taking time out of his own day to bring himself TO the business. It’s not like the business owner has to haul his ass over to the customer’s house. It's the other way around.
If I’m running a business I damn well would be thankful that customers are making the trip to my store! Best to have something to show them.
Now...of course there are crappy customers, just like there are crappy salesmen. But that doesn’t in of itself warrant charging everyone to hear the things you are trying to sell.
Again: where else does this occur that makes it a good idea in reality?