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why do so many discussions turn contentious?

just venting....why do so many discussion posts need to turn  contenious and nasty?  do you guys find that constructive and/or enjoyable?  I have no clue who or how this forum is moderated, but I sure would love to see a stop to that...it makes me feel like this hobby is dominated by total jerks.

Can't we play nice, share OPINIONS and OBSERVATIONS, realizing that  they often are subjective and biased.  
"if you dont have anything nice to say, say nothing"?  If you wish to disagree, do it in a constructive and mature fashion, no need for "argument ad hominem"...

with all the chaff, one must waste so much time finding the wheat, figuratively speaking.  

I doubt my writing this will change anything, but, like most social media, people writing to others without facing them does not bring out the best, sadly......



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pwdmark
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Was this not a topic 3-4 weeks ago? It is at least encouraging that as a group you have found the reason you get few newbies, keep even less. They could make a huge dent in the "old mans club" problem. Limit posters to a reasonable amount of monthly post. I mean when that guy a week or two ago posted that maybe the problem are members that have posted almost 11K in the past three years. FYI, I have not been able to read an entire thread in a long time. Maybe one out of 100. 
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pwdmark
33 posts
 
If I'm going to get lambasted again for posting (been a member 14 years), where is that "Madrical?" Is that his call name? Always fascinated that you guys leave him totally alone to go on and on about tuning the room and all the books on sound and fidelity he has read. Seriously, I can't get through an entire post he is in. You remember that movie Se7en, with Morgan Freeman and Brad Pitt? Remember they found that one emaciated guy in that room with 200-300 air fresheners hanging...... Then he moves!! That's how I imagine that guys listening space. BUT, how did he achieve the pass with all of you?   
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m669326
330 posts
 
I have found it ironic and a bit disheartening that in a thread predicated on understanding and perhaps minimizing gratuitous incivility, some posts demonstrate the problem. Posters have argued with belittling statements, others have singled out those they don't respect, and yet others have injected pet peeves and other irrelevant negativity into the mix. We are who we are, I guess, when it comes to being triggered by each other.
I offer no solutions and I hope my post doesn't come across as attacking or condemning. I'm just noticing what seems to be happening, and experiencing my reaction to it. Perhaps this strikes a chord for others.
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arcticdeth
1,572 posts
 
Too many people are anti USA
THAT IS WHY. 
muskyman1
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I’m an avid musky fisherman. In the big picture of freshwater fishing, musky guys are a very small percentage of overall fisherman. Bothers me when I hear musky guys/groups pulling against one another. As a newbie here I see some of that same discourse. As audiophiles we are a very small percentage of the population. I try to ignore any negativity I read and absorb any useful information I can come across. Overall this forum has been extremely helpful in my recent decisions on upgrading my system.
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