Hardy cartridge

The better vinyl approach is to dub a high-quality copy onto a HD or SSD and park the LP for 'occasional play' only.

If you Must manual que, brace your wrist on the plinth or finger-bridge like a billiards' player.....

Have arm lifts been classified as verboten for those of True Audiophilic Endeavour?  Is it too much for those of low gram weights to test their floppy 'uman tendons to loft and land with nary a 'tic'?

I agree with Bill. Add cuing. And Jerry. Brace your wrist. That's my solution.

I own many ADC carts and have NEVER broken or damaged one in 40+ years. Truly, if you’re really that clumsy, NO cartridge is safe in your hands! Not a Grado, AT, Shure, Ortofon, or heaven forbid an MC cartridge! 

I have the ADC Point 4 with nude conical 0.4 mil stylus, the 660, 770, 10E MKII, 220XE, 10E MKIV, 25, 26, Q36, XLM, XLM MKII and MKIII, NAD 9200/9300, VLM, ZLM MKIII, QLM 36/34/32/30, Astrion, TRX-2, PSX-30/40. Never, ever, damaged a stylus. 
I have 108 cartridges, 150+ styli. I change headshells and styli 2-3 times per day. Never damaged a stylus or cartridge. 
Before you buy another cartridge or stylus, learn how to handle what you have!

Getting memories of old automatic turntables that automatically cued the tonearm to the beginning, automatically reset at the end, and allowed stacking to automatically feed next record. IIRC it was a GE Trimline record player. The amount of vinyl abuse back then would make us cringe today.
Apologies a bit off topic.

@fstein
What you need is a “cueing lever” that lowers and raises the tonearm.  They come in various sizes/heights so check if meets your needs.

The disaster actually has nothing to do with cuing...it occurs with stylus cleaning, using all of the generally approved methods such as blutac, gel, camelhair or carbon fibre stylus brushbrush (back to front), ultasonic stylus cleaner...tried them all, sooner or later ->tears.