You're on the right track with what you're doing but the things you're using are getting all the poor results I would expect. That mat material you're using is more for quieting cars than audio gear. A much better material is TA-102 fO.q tape. This damps micro vibrations revealing inner detail without losing bass or dynamics. Looks expensive but a little goes a long way.
Pull your speakers out into the room. Close to the wall muddles imaging and muddies bass. Worst is the rack by the right speaker, reflections off that are bad. Use a tape measure to align the speakers absolutely equidistant and symmetrical. Then experiment with toe. You will probably want them toed in a lot more for better imaging. But this is a tradeoff, you get better imaging and less room effects being toed in a lot, but also more direct might exacerbate your bright top end. Only you can decide the right balance.
Get some Nobsound springs and put them under everything. These will clean up a tremendous amount of grunge and smear and get you a more natural sound. Springs are sensitive to loading. By adjusting and listening you will be able to tune your system to a lot better sound. It will take some time to figure out the best combination but it will be well worth it as you will be able to tame that top end without losing anything in the process.
Bear in mind a certain amount of top end glare will always be there simply due to what you are using. But there's an awful lot you can do to ameliorate it without trying to mask it creating problems in other areas like with the mat stuff you tried.