My source has a dedicated plug for ground on its rear ....Yes, but is that ground connected to chassis/AC safety ground, or to circuit ground, or to both. If it is only connected to chassis and AC safety ground, without being directly connected to circuit ground, that could be the problem. Especially if connecting to one of the negative speaker wires works with reasonable volume (not sure if that is what you meant when you said it appears to work that way).
Also, I would expect that using circuit ground on the source, or connecting the sub's ground to one of the negative speaker wires, would be less optimal sonically than connecting to circuit ground on the preamp.
Regards,
-- Al