I don't ever use the word "audiophile" to label myself because I just like good music and good sound -whatever form it comes in. From my experience, many audiophiles are pretty pretentious so I tend to avoid such groups, don't tell people I like hifi and audio and definitely could care less about debating topics on what equipment is good. I;d rather ask someone what they like in something and why -hearing THEIR story is much more interesting to me than arguing why MY stuff is better than theirs and how that makes me a better audiophile.
As someone that works in a studio for a living, I am around equipment that dwarfs the cost of any audiophile equipment setup so I don't bother with the pissing contest in audiophile circles because it loses the point of it all: to simply enjoy the music.