A first

Well, my neighbors were having a pool party this past weekend. Playing their portable really loud, using their phone as a source. Lots of distortion. Metal, hip-hop, rap. 
 

I wheeled out my old DIY speakers from 1992, my spare receiver in it’s hard case (fan cooled), and my little Denon DP15F table. I used to use this system in my glassed/screened in area years ago in another house. Another life. The speakers are quite good, ribbon MR and Tweets, 2-12” woofers. 
 

Started playing The Drifters, Beach Boys, The Ventures. Using an old ADC QLM36 cartridge. 
 

I shut them down using a paltry 40W/ch. Not a loudness war. An SQ war! They all came to the fence to see what they were hearing. Robert came over an hour later to try some phone music plugged into the AUX jack. Simple. But he was blown away. SQ got his attention. He came in and saw/listened to my main system with the Ghost Grey FR30s. He’s a convert!

Even my son, who is a jazz musician, is totally disinterested in the SQ of my system, to my great dismay.  Of course, he grew up with my isolating myself in my listening room.  That probably has something to do with it.

I think most people are allergic to music.  I receive 5 listings per day to get an idea of what homes are worth in our area.  Over the past 4 years I seen a pair of speakers sitting in a room.  Most people have an entertainment cabinet with a wide screen TV and they are listening to their tv speakers.  We have a surround system in our family room and a listening room in the living room.  I just don't know why music provides another platform of entertainment.

Most people don't fully understand to actually listen requires one to get quiet, then get still and then further more focus

What tends to happen for me in many cases, particular if alcohol is involved, newbies are enjoying some of their favorite material and cannot resist the urge to respond or worse begin to sing, whereby reducing my pride and joy to a glorified karaoke machine

I make the best of it nonetheless but left with the sense they've missed the finer or best parts of the experience 

I'm not a newbie and I don't drink alcohol, but I love 'responding to' and sometimes singing along to my favorite music. People should enjoy music however they like, as far as I'm concerned. Ain't no rules.