Looking for a preamp with XLR connections

A few comments

1 XLR is not the same as inherently balanced. While XLR means a balanced interconnect far too many achieve it with an extra (meaning more noise, distortion) stage to convert an otherwise unbalanced circuit to balanced. Don't be fooled.

2. If you think ASR specs are the end all, we have little more to discuss. And this is from an EE who's been CTO of some large tech firms.  Music is not so simple.....

3. Why is XLR/balanced so important to you? Its real benefit is noise immunity.  I seriousyl doubt you have that issue in your home.

G

If you are not considering tubes you are really missing out.

Tubes are like an obsession with many. OP says no tubes. I tried tubed preamps, BHK and Prima Luna. Best thing I did was going back to solid state. One less thing to fuss around with and not missing anything. Of course getting your room right has everything to do with it.

Hegel P30, Hegel P20

You might like the Circle Labs P300: https://www.circlelabs.eu/p300_en