Good comments. I like these dealers a lot, so this is really not about them. We have not even discussed this topic. I think they're fantastic guys and so this post is really about the general practices around borrowing speakers.
It says something about the industry and margins involved that this is so difficult. I mean, people take $60k cars for test drives all the time, buy enormous televisions and return them, etc. etc. FFS, you give them your credit card, they take a few pictures, you establish an understanding about damage, etc. and off you go.
The notion that you can get speakers shipped to you via Upscale or TMR or Music Direct or Audio Advice and return them means that the dealer who is completely unwilling to allow try-to-buy is still on a different path. I'm not saying that doesn't have it's own logic to it -- after all, if you're selling an in-demand product, then you don't need to please the guy who needs to try. For *that* sale. But as many here have said, there's more at stake when there is a potential to build a relationship. One pair of speakers leads to another, leads to preamps and cables and more.
@decooney "Buy" with a discussion around Return Policy may be a more acceptable approach.
That's a good thing to keep in mind. Thanks.
@knighttodd
I've bought and returned to TMR before. That's a good way to go if the other routes don't pan out.
@bipod72
I've done the Crutchfield thing. I tried Martin Logan's for a month (they allowed up to 2 months) and when I shipped them back the shipping charge was $10 per speaker. Yes, you read that right. Pretty amazing. But they're not carrying what I'm interested in, now.
@duckworp
An audition fee is an interesting idea. You have had great luck with your dealers -- the brands you have auditioned at home are among those which other posters here have ruled out as possible. You're bending the curve, buddy!
@wolf_garcia
I'll never buy speakers again without a serious audition as I've had to return a pair of ZUs, sell a pair of Sonists and a pair of Heresy IVs...you think I'd learn.
Haha! I hear you! Exactly where I'm at.
@ozzy62
If the dealer was able to get them to sound even mildly mediocre in that setting, they should be absolutely out of this world in your room.
I'm not as comfortable as you are extrapolating regarding how things will sound with my gear in my room. Especially for $13k speakers.