Can you give me your speaker suggestions?

If you are handy, try GR Research speakers. I brought my speakers down for an upgrade and ended up purchasing their NX-Otica's. I listened to their big brother, the NX-Tremes and was totally blown away. I have listened to many high end systems and NX-Tremes were one of the very best I have listened to. The slightly younger brother sound almost as good. Type in NX-Oticas into youtube and you will hear what I'm talking about! Good luck!

I switched from the original Heresy model to Monitor Audio Silver 500 7G and I have been very happy.  One of my listening buddies who complained about lack of bass on the Heresy is now very happy.  Bass is tight and very present, but not overwhelming.  I do have a large rectangular room that is pretty ideal and I am driving them with a Cary Audio SLI-100.

Since you said you would consider DIY, my recommendation is to add a Zobel Network to each driver in the enclosure. Almost every loudspeaker can be improved by flattening the impedance curve and therefore allowing the crossover to perform at its best. All you need to do is remove each speaker, disconnect the wires, and measure the DC resistance and Inductance with a meter. Attach the calculated resistor and capacitor in series between the terminals, reattach the wires and replace the speaker.

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If you are really keen, you could then add a Zobel Network to the external loudspeaker terminals after doing fresh measurements, and then perhaps even add another Zobel Network at the amplifier. Disconnect the speaker wires and measure the resistance and inductance of the wires while still connected to the speaker.

@captaindidactic I will look into those, I have no problem going the diy route, I’ve watched some of his videos on YouTube and he seems to know what he’s doing.

update:

I got my hands on a eq and had to boost the the 200hz range 4-6db to find a satisfying level. some people have told me it might be a room problem or a source problem because I shouldn’t have to boost it that much in order to find it satisfying.

out of curiosity I dusted off a 20 year old psb bookshelf speaker that my dad had in storage (6ohm 88db). immediately the range I was missing was there, more weight and punch out of a 6 inch two way with the same source and both my amps ran them with no problem. of course with these speakers Im missing the open midrange range and upper frequencies, im missing the way acoustics guitars, vocals and horns just seem to flow out so effortlessly as they do with the heresys. and of course the same sense of scale was not there with the bookshelf. but it was nice to know it seems to not be a room or source issue, and so I will continue the hunt for new speakers.

Perhaps for your case a bookshelf might be a better option?

I think Audiovector R1 Arrete is perfect for your needs. It is incredibly meaty sounding for a bookshelf and certainly has enough bass. 

If you can spring an additional thousand, the new Triangle Magellan Duetto 40th Anniversary is awesome.