@kevemaher, It sounds to me like you have a speaker/room problem. Changing cartridges is only going to make marginal differences. The frequencies causing your problem are in the 3 kHz to 4 kHz region and these frequencies love to bounce around the room creating that "white noise" you mentioned. Makes you want to squint. While it is true that cartridges that lean on the bright side will make this worse the cartridge is not the primary problem.
Systems that are tuned correctly will initially sound dull until you realize that the high frequencies are there right where they should be, over with the cymbals. Voices and violins sound natural without any sibilance. Acoustic foam tiles are dirt cheap. Buy a box of them and use double sided carpet tape to tape them to the walls and ceiling at the early reflection sites. You will be shocked at how your sound improves. If you do not know how to find them message me and I will go over it with you.